Adult Children with ADD Living at Home

Eileen Bailey

As you were raising your children, you imagined how they would be as they grew up. Maybe you pictured them going to college and getting a good job. Or maybe college wasn't important but you saw your child getting a job and learning to live on their own. Maybe you envisioned them beginning their own family.

As our children grow up we teach them how to take care of themselves. We teach them about doing their wash, cooking, and cleaning. We teach them because we understand that one day they will leave our home. But sometimes they do not seem to be ready to leave. What happens when parents have their adult children still living at home? What happens when they can't seem to hold a job or can't seem to take care of themselves? What happens when parents begin to doubt that their child will ever be able to live on their own?

It may be that their ADHD interferes with keeping a job. Maybe they have additional mental illnesses, such as depression or bipolar that interferes with their life skills. Maybe they are struggling with finding something they would enjoy and they are good at. Both the adult child and the parents become frustrated with day-to-day living. Parents may become resentful when an adult child sits around the house each day, seeming to not care that they do not have a job. They may be angry at the mental health system for not offering more support or services. They may be angry with themselves for not having better prepared their children for the grown up world. The adult child may become angry at their situation, blaming their parents and their disability or at the world for not accepting them. They may be angry with themselves or see themselves as a failure.

As resentment and anger build, the household can become unbearable. Frustration and anger can lead to strained relationships or bitter fighting each day. It can be hard to find somewhere to turn and someone to help. There are a few national organizations and programs that might offer some assistance. Your situation and your child's abilities will determine which programs can help. Social workers in your area may be able to provide you with additional resources available.

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