Stage 5 Alzheimer
Community Member November 11, 2007
My mother started in 2000. She is 84 years old, and in a Memory Care Unit. It is very hard to accept this condition. I have cried all the way home each time I see her. She begs to go home. But, she has (0) short term memory. I want her in a safe envirorment, free from worry of trying to do everyday things she could no longer handle. My Mother had a will, and had everything covered. She listed her POA, Who She wanted to become Guardian if she became ill, Just Everything. There are four daughters. One daughter is in complete denial and it is terry up our whole family. Mother is happy where she is. But the one sister keeps going in and aggitating her. Telling her everyone else in the family are being mean to her. We are actually going to court over this. All I want to do is visit my mom. Shouldn't her will executed 1996 hold up. Why would a sister who is in denial, get guardianship over the person my mothers stated she wanted in her will. Mother denied anything was wrong and is just now started getting any kind of medicine for this. I have lost so much sleep. It is so stressfull,and tears you up to realize that your mother really is in this shape, but then when one person in your family makes the rest of the family feel like they are the devil It is overwelming. The doctors, hospital, nursing home have confirmed my mother is where she should be, but my sister just keeps going pushing to go to court. It is only going to waiste valuable money of my mothers for court costs that could be paying for her to stay in a facilty. Three Daughters just want to make sure mothers money & home go for her care, the other daughter is trying to take her out and preserve the money for herself.This sister will not take my mother into her home and take care of her. It is horrible. I have cried this year just for the fact that we will not have my mom with me for the holidays. I have had Thanksgiving, Christmas Day with my mother for 43 years. This one sister is making things so hard, that no one can take my mother out of the facility. What is a family to do when one member of the family puts this even more burden on them than just the desease? It just seems rediculous to me to have to go to court when my mother prepared and had everything covered. Anyone else been through this? Any help?