As I re-read my shareposts written over a year ago, I cannot believe that life has changed so radically for me and for Dick this first year of his placement in a small board and care home. Placing one's parents is one thing, but placing one's spouse is quite another --- I speak from experience on both sides. I thought that I would... Read more
Time flies -- it certainly does! Last year I was agonizing over placing Dick in a small board and care home, then slowly adjusting, and now I am in a new world. Dick's loving caregivers have given me the gift of a life of loving my husband and yet not worrying about him on an hourly or even daily basis. The gift they have given... Read more
In August I was agonizing over placing my husband in a small board and care home; now in December I am rejoicing over my decision to do just that. The months of adjustment are over for both of us --- actually, for Dick, it was an easy adjustment --- for me, not quite so. But here we are about to move into 2008 -- twelve years into this... Read more
My husband is gone in almost every conceivable way, and yet I find myself wanting to hang on to the last little bit of him even though I know now that it might not be in his best interests. I know if it were me, I would want him to stay involved with me and yet still have the time and opportunity to get on with his life. And in... Read more
I've been wrestling with the issue of placing my husband in a small board and care for quite some time, but now that the reality is upon me, I find myself on an emotional roller coaster of both guilt and reality. The guilt comes from this insane belief that I SHOULD care for him at home as long as I can possibly manage. The reality... Read more
