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Thursday, December, 04, 2008

One Year After Mom's Death and I'm Glad that I Took on the Caregiving Role

by  Dorian Martin
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
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As I sit here trying to write this sharepost to mark the one-year anniversary of Mom's death, I'm listening to the pitter-patter of afternoon raindrops on my patio. I'd like to believe that Mother Nature also is saddened by this anniversary and these natural tears from heaven are being shed to mat...

 

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    Leah
    Tuesday, September 30, 2008 at 10:14 AM

    Dorian, I can so relate to your thoughts.  My sister and I cared for our mom during the years preceding her death.  Every time she went into the hospital, we wondered if it would be her last.  Near the end, Mom tried to prepare me for what was to come.  She said, " Leah, I never stopped thinking about my mother after her death.  There was never a day that I did not miss her..."  My mother passed away 13 years ago and I, to this day, still miss her.  Sometimes, I even ache for her...  That may sound strange, but it is true.  We had such a bond, one probably not unlike yours with your mother.  It is good that you write about her.  Keep her alive in your mind.  We know our mothers are in better places, free of pain...and that is a comfort.  But we still grieve; we still miss them.  God bless you as you continue through this process...

    Leah


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    seawolf1944
    Thursday, October 02, 2008 at 08:48 AM

    After read ing this share post,It brings back memories of my dad before,He passed away. My dad stated haveing memory  problems in 1997.       I had to do the driveing for him and took him and my step mom wherever,They needed to go. I noticed that,He was haveing memory problems and mood swings. One day,We took him to a interal med doctor, While,He was ther,I went next door to a nurologist office. They gave me material on AD. After,We returned home,My wife and I went over all the information. Dad had progressed into the beginning of last stage of AD. my dad and stepmom would get into an argument.It was so bad that, instead of communicateing verballly, They would write notes to each other and usein bible verses to back up their thoughts. When,We would arrive at their home,We never  knew,What mood dad might be  in. Even though,It was very stessful ,We never stopped loveing them. Dad passed away in Janurary,1999. My stepmom passed away a year later  We miss them greatly. Now,Im 64 years of age. Every day, I keep a running account of my own possible mood swings and memory problems. I sincerely hope that, I don't progress to that of my dad. Thanks for the share post. Please have a nice day. John


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