The One Promise I Didn't Keep to My Mother

This is a wonderful post, Dorian. My mother used to say to me, "Can you just give me a little black pill?"  Of course, I couldn't. I had to tell her that I'd do all I could to make her comfortable, but that was all I could do.

My dad would have chosen death over the surgery that put him into a demented state for ten years, but he had no way of knowing. Then, of course, it was out of our hands.

Health directives are a must, so our loved ones know what we want, but many choices aren't legal here. What you did, was honor the spirit of your promise. You took wonderful care of your mother, even though you couldn't carry out her wish.

Blessing to you,

Carol

This is a wonderful post, Dorian. My mother used to say to me, "Can you just give me a little black pill?"  Of course, I couldn't. I had to tell her that I'd do all I could to make her comfortable, but that was all I could do.

My dad would have chosen death over the surgery that put him into a demented state for ten years, but he had no way of knowing. Then, of course, it was out of our hands.

Health directives are a must, so our loved ones know what we want, but many choices aren't legal here. What you did, was honor the spirit of your promise. You took wonderful care of your mother, even though you couldn't carry out her wish.

Blessing to you,

Carol

Dorian:  You were a loving and caring daughter.  I can understand how your mother felt and I'm sure she didn't want you to do anything that would get you into trouble.  My father died of Early Onset Alzheimers and now my husband has Alzheimers.  I will do everything in my power to take care of him until the very end, however, if I were to be diagnosed with Alzheimers, I would take my husband for a ride and neither of us would ever come back.   I just could not put my kids through the nightmare of caring for both of us with this horrible condition.