I have heard people say that if they are ever diagnosed with Alzheimer's, they want to take a pill (or worse) and exit quickly rather than endure living with that quality of life. I nod that I understand that fear, but that I actually think having a stroke and being paralyzed may be worse. My dear "Second Mom" growing up,... Read more
I often hear people say how much a friend's offhanded comment hurt, but when I ask if they think the comment was really intended to hurt, they usually ponder a bit and finally say, well, no. If we all looked behind the minor statements that happen to rub us the wrong way and searched to see if there was a blatant intention to cause pain, a lot... Read more
When I hear people say, "I hate the holidays", I usually find out it's because they have a little PTSD left over from too many holiday horrors of the past. They dread feeling obligated to spend time with their extended dysfunctional family (does anyone come from a completely NON-dysfunctional family?) and they worry about whose going... Read more
I have to stop listening to "Dr. Nora" while I am driving, as I am going to get in an accident from my jaw hitting the steering wheel. I rarely tune in, but I swear, every time I do-some adult daughter is calling in about being at her wit's end with her "challenging" elderly mother. I wait... and sure enough, she starts... Read more
I spent Thanksgiving trying to convince my friends' elders that their short-term memory loss needs to be evaluated and treated ASAP, to delay the progression of dementia and hopefully keep them out of a nursing home. Eighty-year old Dora dismissed everything I said with, "Ohhh, I'm going to die soon anyway, next year for sure, so it... Read more