Friday, March 27, 2009
I've been my moms caregiver since 2004. I have a aid for 6 hours a week and one day she goes to a daycare. My hubby and son help too. So I'm blessed to have the help. What is my gripe my brother is her power of attorney and I don't pay on any of the normal bills but I do get the goceries and satilite tv,internet. We take mom everywhere she has to go and with us everywhere we go. We haven't had a vacation since we moved in in 2004. We're all in burn out. We can't afford to have a vaction. A long time a go someone told me they had heard they're is a way to get paid for taking care of mom is that true? We all need time away from the normal grind of everyday things anyone have any suggestions?????
You should certainly be reimbursed for expenses, and fairness would dictate some payment. If your mother can't give "informed consent," and your brother won't, see an elder attorney. Maybe you can get some help that way. This is entirely unfair to you and your family. Keep good records of money spent on your mother and your time. That can help. You could try this Web site:
www.eldercare.gov/eldercare/Public/Home.asp
Best of luck with this.
Carol
It's nice to have someone who agrees with me. I don't have a house of my own. I have to live here with mom. I can't afford a place of my own right now and it really gets me down. My son is the only one with a job and it's part time. My hubby is drawing unemployment. Waiting for disablilty for my hubby he had a stroke in december 2008. So I'm stuck here not ever knowing if my brother and my so called family will start something. I hate living like this. It's not good for anyone. I just lost my 19 year old dog he ran off with some dogs and we haven't seen him since the 25th. God I miss him so much. I hope he's alright.
You're really got a plateful. And I'm so sorry about your dog! That is huge. My sister's dog is getting old and is very sick. It's horribly hard.
I hope your husband gets on disability soon, as that will help financially, but that, too, is such a slow process. Sometimes, you just want to bang your head on the wall (well, I'm speaking in general. Hopefully, you aren't literally doing that). But I understand the frustration. I've been through plenty of my own.
Keep coming back to talk it out. Talking won't fix it, but it will help let off steam.
Blessings,
Carol
Thank you for your words of incouragement. I just got some more bad news that since my hubby is drawing unemployment my food stamps has been reduced by $200. I have know idea how I'm going to feed 4 people on $137. All I can do is pray,but when I got the news all I wanted to do is go to bed. It helped to get some sleep but the problem still exits. Surprize...surprize....
Yes, the problem still exists. I hope you get some sleep.
Carol