Jessie's Corner

Hello.....I am new at this but I suppose that there is always a starting point to everything.  I am really frustrated at the fact that I cannot seem to get the vetrerans center to help with medications and things of this nature.  He was able to create a nest egg for himself and because of this he is being punished.  WW2 I guess means nothing to some people and he willingly served.  I am in the process of creating a video of family when they were children and coming all the way up to current pictures.  My husband, his brother, and one of his sisters all have Alzheimers and Dementia.  I am interested in any information on current medications therapy that may be new and as much information as I can get my hands on.  I am tired and remain very frustrated because of things with his children and the fact that I feel like they really don't care about him as much as they let on.  There is strong information coming from family to support this and they all say the same things.  I dont know what to do since they have talked him into doing a Power of attorney naming them only for both medical and financial issues.  Is there anyone that can give me some information on what to do since he has been declared incompetent and the POA cannot b e changed and it be legal.  He just does not understand and did nto really understand at the time that this was done.  They never go to any doctors appointments, ER visits, and basically does not really fulfill the duties that a POA is suppose to.  They have said that this was not their responsiblilty that this was mine.  Has anyone else been through this situation?  What did you do?  How do you handle this?  there is other issues as well but that is to much to go into.  basically I am the one that goes to doctor visits and does everthing that he needs to have done.  I am just really frustrated and need a break from time to time.