Wednesday, January 04, 2012
Caregivers frequently turn their lives inside out in order to care for their loved ones in decline. I know, because I've done it. The number of elders who depended on my help increased throughout the years, to a total of seven, though the most I cared for at one time was five. I also had two children...
This was a wonderful blog, Carol, and so very right on. Having gone through so much of it yourself, you are certainly an expert with great insight. I am going through some of what you experienced with the elderly lady I have Power of Attorney of. I have learned NOT to take her accusations and whining personally. Usually, I quickly change the subject to something pleasant for her. When that doesn't work, I say my good-byes and leave. She is in a nursing home, so I can leave. I do the same when I call her on the phone.
I am on both sides--working with a person with dementia and having dementia myself. Your article reminds me of what may lie ahead for myself and my husband. It could frighten me if I allowed myself to dwell on it. I choose NOT to look too far ahead. It's hard enough living in the present!!!
Thank you for providing wonderful support to caregivers!
Leah
You really are in a unique position, Leah. I know you've helped this lady for years. It's good she's now in a nursing home. And yes - take care of yourself. It's always such a delicate balance.
Thanks for your comment.
Blessings,
Carol