Monday, January 26, 2009
How much does personality determine our health? That question has been pondered, studied and argued over for decades. Most people would say it only makes sense that a certain amount of our physical health will depend on our mental health and our outlook on life, but the concept is extremely difficult...
Thank you Carol
I wish with all my heart scientist would quit wasting time and money on who might develop this horrible disease and just concentrate on what enviromential elements are causing it and how better to treat it.
As you all now know Ray is gone. I know from personal experience now the real very real things we need to worry about. How to love and care for our loved ones how to understand this disease better. That some how we have to better educate people not to fear or run from it. How much they may seem like they don't know you that they really do they are still there they just can't verbalize it normally any more. They develop their own way of dealing with it as we the primary caregivers do. We can leave the room they can't. They cannot get out of the lost feeling in their minds.
Ray's greatest fear was because he was a career soldier he would become physically abusive. Verbally he was to some extent. They have so little left they can control. They try to say I love you but it comes out as I want this (something completely off the wall) but in thier minds they are saying to us I am here I hear you I love you thank you. In their minds it's a jumbled mess.
In the end I could see Ray's heart and the muddle in his brain. I could see in his eyes I love you when his mouth was saying I hate this I hate no control any more. It all meant the same thing. I AM STILL HERE PLEASE LISTEN TO ME. That is what they are trying to tell you. Everyone has to find their own way. You have to find out how to cope and you have to listen with your heart to unscramble their words.
Lets all fight to have them spending the money on how better to treat this disease, educate people about this disease and the real issue what enviromential impacts on the physical aspect of developing this disease. Does it really matter how sweet a person is how healthy a person is that is not the issue. You can live your whole life never misuse your body or never have a predisposition for this disease. It happens lets find better ways to treat it better education to help cope with it.
Thank you Connie
Connie, what a wonderful, wonderful post. I totally agree with your words. Some of these studies do make you wonder. However, I suppose enough of them that point in one direction will show them who should be treated early.
I love your take on what they say and what they mean. The horror of not being able to express oneself (I saw this in my once eloquent father), the feeling of the world passing them by and forgetting what they once could do and that they still matter and need love - it's all so sad and frustrating. I shed many tears over Dad, as you did over Ray.
I'm so sad for you that you lost Ray, but you know he is in a better place now, and is still with you. You and Ray together will make a difference in this world.
Take care,
Carol