Many studies have found that caregiver’s immune systems suffer from the stress of caregiving. It was easy for me to see that depression can be an issue. Back injury, heart disease, other diseases like cancer, when check-ups are skipped because we caregivers lack time and energy to take care of ourselves, are also an issue. But, it was only... Read more
Gone are the days when three generations – or more – routinely lived their lives in the same location. We are mobile. Many jobs move employees often. A sunnier climate seduces some young adults, who then never return to live in the old home town. As long as the elders are spry, can travel and can keep in touch by phone, it works. But... Read more
While there weren’t as many services available when I started caregiving as there are now, I knew enough to be careful. An elder is a vulnerable adult. Any time we look for an outside service for our elders, we need to get whatever references are available – and check them out. Normally, the company could be asked for references that... Read more
As a columnist, I get many questions about people feeling alone. They wonder if they are the only people dealing with an issue. Nearly always, I can cite examples – often from my own life – to help them realize they are part of a fellowship. That, to me, is the inherent value of storytelling, of sharing our lives with people who are in... Read more
The month of May marked the second anniversary of my mother’s death. Five months before, my dad had died. May also brought Mother’s Day; June – Father’s Day. All of these “days” jumbled together have affected me differently, this year, than they did in the last two years. I’ve found myself wondering why.... Read more