My mother always told me not to get married at Christmas time. She and my dad eloped December 26, 1940. It sounds very romantic. But they spent the rest of their lives trying to fit in an anniversary celebration around the Christmas holidays. It even became a family problem during times like their 25th and 50th anniversaries, when we wanted to... Read more
In my previous post, I wrote about couples who committed murder-suicide as a last, desperate act to stay "independent" and out of nursing homes. A New York Times article by Daniel Bergner, titled "Death in the Family," is a riveting story about another kind of suicide, a death considered by some with degenerative diseases such... Read more
I went to speak at an event yesterday and I left profoundly moved. The meeting was held in a church, though the event had more of a "healing" focus. We were waiting for a senior counselor, an exercise specialist and a nutritionist to round out a group that would be advising on how to help body, mind and spirit. I was the second... Read more
OurAlzheimer's writer Dorian Martin's mother died over the weekend from Alzheimer's disease (and Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease or COPD). Dorian is a talented writer and a devoted daughter. She and I discussed publicly, on OurAlzheimer's, as well as privately, the questions we asked ourselves as we publicized our loved... Read more
A good friend of mine, Jan, and her husband Wil, had a perfect retirement planned. They worked hard, raised their kids, put them through college and had kept up on their retirement financial planning. Their marriage was strong. They weren't wealthy, but they had plans to retire in their late 50s, get an RV and travel "while they could... Read more