Life after Alzheimers

Connie Moore is Widow of alzheimers patient Caregiver wife,mother,grandmother/greatgrandmother I am a widow of an Alzheimers Patient. In some ways i feel like I... Send Message Subscribe: Connie Moore

Wednesday, March 04, 2009
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No more 2:00am wake ups from my beloved husband. He is gone now as you all know. I am so sorry I haven't written to many of your comments I have read them but not commented on all. It has just been so over whelming for me. I haven't left just reading them and being silent. I am back. Many ti...

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I am greatful this morning
Bill Hirdman
Wednesday, March 04, 2009 at 09:14 AM

As I think back to what I go through at times and feel like I have nothing in my tanks I come here to this site and find that I am not alone. This it self is fuel in the tanks! And to read your words I am selfish as I read, wanting to believe you are writing to me. How your words must relate to others as they do me touch me in ways only US, the caregivers could ever understand . Your strength is unmatched in my home. you have been there for me at all the right times. How nice it would be to live closer to you and be able to repay your help by helping you at home. who knows? I have help now and I could pop on over! hehe

Connie, I normaly would never speak for others but I am sure I can thank you for your support that you give out so graciously for all of us that you have touched. Certainly you have touched and helped my life.

"Thank You"

Until we get to talk again I wish for you health and happieness.

Hugs for you

Always, Bill

re: I am greatful this morning
Connie Moore
Thursday, March 05, 2009 at 04:55 AM

Hi Bill

Thank you. I wrote the post because that is truly what is in my heart. It is what I learned during my journey with Alzheimers. It is the gift my husband gave me. I had all the same feelings all the frustrations you are going through right now. You are not alone no one going through this is. This site needs more advertisement. Many more are out there that have no knowledge of this site and that has become my new mission in life. I will find a way to help bring others here. Here is where as care givers we find the support the strength to face each new day and each new challenge. We don't have a hand book to follow and no two patients are the same but we all share a common bond caring for a loved one with alzheimers. We can all survive this we can all help each other survive this just by saying you are not alone. Keep writing keep sharing you frustrations and your joys. Take care. Your friend in Texas. Connie

Do the right thing
N.C.
Wednesday, March 04, 2009 at 11:06 AM

Connie,

I read what you wrote here and I am quite moved. You said we all do the best and the right thing. It strikes my heart so. You know how all of us caregivers/family feel. Yes, there is life after Alzheimers, and I hope you will again pick up what you used to like or do and become active in the local community again! I am sure you are doing so well! I am surprised you can write this nice post after what happened and so soon.

Your posts have helped me a lot and made me feel we are not the only one.

That is why we need this support group, online or local.

Thanks for your post and I will read it again sometimes because it is so nicely written. I can feel what you said or felt.

Take care and I hope you will soon find what to do again for yourself.

My father-in-law's house is also old and we are in the middle of unclogging this big clog by the plumbers. They said we would need to fix the old rusted pipes one day. The tree root came too far in the old pipes! We do have lots of problems. We even caught 3 squirrels and hope that is it and we will animal proof the attic. Then we need to fix the broken insulation and woods in the attic... It is hard to know where we will stay. My FIL may stay here or he may go to a nursing home next year because this house is really getting too old and needs lots of repairs without him being in the house.

Like you said, we all try to do the best!

Thanks and take care,

Nina

re: Do the right thing
Connie Moore
Thursday, March 05, 2009 at 05:05 AM

Hi Nina Thank you. You have helped me so much everyone on this site has helped so much. I wish I could reach in my computer and give everyone a hug. I could not have made it without all the dear friends I have made on this site.

My house is actually only 15 years old. The problems I am having are unusual for a house this age but this to I will survive. One of the biggest lessons we learn during this journey is survial mode. In what ever form we can find it we will and have to survive. That is the legacy we pass on. How ever what ever it takes you honor yourselves your loved ones by continuing the battle they are no longer able to fight. Their choice has been taken away when each faced the diagnosis. We as care givers fight the fight for them now.

I will never stop loving and missing my husband but he was such a fighter I can do no less. Take care dear friend. Hugs Connie

Re: insight
Leah
Thursday, March 05, 2009 at 03:32 PM

My dear friend, once again you are reaching out with your heart to help alleviate the pain and guilt felt by others who have lost or are in the act of losing a loved one. Your words are valuable for anyone who is grieving. Keep writing, my dear; you will become stronger the more you write--and so will will your readers. God bless you, Connie. You are certainly blessing our lives! Leah

re: Re: insight
Connie Moore
Friday, March 06, 2009 at 06:25 AM

Hi Leah

Thank you for your kind words. I wrote what was in my heart with the hopes of aleast sharing my grief would benefit at least one person. This journey we all face is long and can be so disheatening. We think at times we can't do it but with all the support we get on this site it gives us strength. Talking sharing and trying to help others we help ourselves too. We are able to realize even though it seems we are alone in this we are not. Thank you my friend, Connie

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deparker
Thursday, July 16, 2009 at 06:51 PM

Hi Connie,

I was just looking through some of the Alzheimer's info and found your comments. I to live in Texas and have a husband with EOA.

I am so sorry to hear about your husband.

My husband has had it for 4 1/2 yrs.

He can't carry on conversation any more. He loves to go to Church. And out to eat. He gets so tired of staying at home. He was such a hard worker he was my rock. I miss him so much. Sometimes he doesn't seem like my husband any more. But I love him and will take care of him as long as I possibly can.

I have so many questions I would like to ask you would you mind emailing on our private email address.

Debra Parker from East Texas