It has been a way for me to push past the grief and focus on repairing damage. The answer to my question of is there life after losing your loved one. Yes there is it may be dramatically changed but you continue to get up you continue to live and you find your place in this life we are given. To give up after losing your loved one would be so wrong they wouldn't want that. I live each day in some of the same ways as I did after the horrible diagnosis of Alzheimers. I ask my self as I would when caring for Ray would he have wanted it this way if he had the choice. He lost so much and ask so little. He would tell me stay on this site and keep talking keep sharing.

I no longer care for a loved one with Alzheimers but I have learned some things some very important life lessons the hard way. When you think you can't take it one more day and you think you can't go on ask your self this question. What would your loved one do if he or she could choose this life without having this horrible disease invade there minds. You answer that question and you have all the tools you need to keep going. Treat you loved ones as if there are no more tomorrows. When all is said and done that is the most important thing. Help them keep thier dignity but don't lose yourselves in this they would not want you to do that. Do the important things and don't sweat the small stuff there will be a tomorrow to play catchup. Right now you and your loved ones are the only truly important things happening in your life.

It dosen't matter if we keep our loved ones at home or find them a place where they recieve the best care. We each have to make our own decisons on how we deal with this disease. We each have to live with our decisions and know that we have done our best. I did. I chose to keep Ray home not all are as blessed as I was to be able to do that. If you have to place your loved one do so if that is what is best for them and yourselves. It dosen't really matter in the end we all can only do so much and we all have to learn what our path is in this life. Friends you are all dealing with the question am I doing the right thing have I done the right thing did I do this right. YES I did you are no matter the place or time as long as we keep loving our Alzheimers loved ones and as long as we continue to move forward we have and are doing it right.

Take care dear friends. I will not leave I will be on. If I can help or if you just need an ear to listen to you or words to encourage you I am here. You all helped me so very much all those late nights and early morning and all the times I thought I could not continue on. I only have a life lesson in this but I have a life time of experience of the pain and suffering that goes with the job title of caring for a loved one with Alzhiemers. Until next time dear friends. If I can help let me know it is the least I can do to repay all of your kindness. You can do this we can all do this with each other to lean on. May God bless and keep you. Your friend in Texas. Connie