I find myself navigating through Stage 2 dilemas on a wing and a prayer. The decision I am now faced with is how to care for Jim when I return to school in the fall. He has been working as a varsity high school coach the past year and loves it. He's fullfilling his life-long dream. He's not able to stay home by himself anymore so I am going to look into adult daycare.
This would be an excellent choice for both yoU and Jim. In Florida, we have some great places and I speak from experience. My wife (15 years with AD) has attended a day
care center for almost two years. She has been in late stage for 6 years so it is a little
different than your situation but it works.
Just a couple of precautions - some day care centers will not let people with agressive tendencies stay at their facilities, and Jim may not like it at first. Usually they become accustomed the the surroundings and then it is like going to "work". Make sure the center has lots of activities and good interaction with the staff. Sounds like he will do
fine at a center as you stated about the coaching. Good luck with your journey and I will stress what Sue said. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
I care for my mother in law who has AD and has lived with us for 11 years. At the beginning of this journey the idea of a "day care" was offensive for this proud intelligent lady but now it is a wonderful haven. The employees at the center have provided the relief that I needed from providing daily care. Good luck as you try to work and care for your family member, it is no small task. Take care of yourself because the length of the journey can be long.
Thanks, Motes. Pride is a big issue with Jim, as well. The thing is, this disease robs people of their dignity. It's a cruel disease. I know what you mean about long-term care. I try not to do more than 1 day at a time or I get depressed. I am thankful for our children, my dog and most of all, Jesus.
What ever works is the important thing. You need time for yourself
Just a note: My wife passed away 3 months ago today. It was a blessing for
her but I do miss her so much. We can prepare for the eventuality but when
it comes there is pain
Good luck with your journey and if I can be of help, write me directly
Duane wallacedj@juno.com
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Thanks so much for your post and welcome to our community. Facing the different stages of Alzheimer's can be scary and frustrating. But there are many resources out there to help you as a caregiver and your loved one.
It sounds like you are on the right track with adult daycare. There are in-home and facility options, its a matter of availability, preference, budget.
Don't forget to take care of yourself as well. It is so important for caregivers to have support for themselves.
Looking forward to more posts from you - it sounds like you and your husband great people.
All the best, sue
Thanks, Sue. It is step by step and moment by moment. I appreciate your encouragement.