I want all of you caregivers who are dealing with toilet dookies, dry shampooing back-headed, dirty-haired crop circles and cleaning crumbs that look like boogers from lunch trays to go outside right now and kick a tree.  Go ahead, they can take it.  And then stand back and yell at the nearest cloud, "Dammit!!  Dammit!!  Dammit to hell!!"  Go ahead, you deserve a little release, and it feels good. 

Nobody is perfect, and all of us will have a bad moment sooner or later.  If you get testy with your patient then just feel bad for a second and apologize, go get them a box of ‘Fudge Love' or tell them the next time they have a bad moment you will keep your mouth shut and not pout.  It's tit for tat.  Try different trees when you are kicking them and then blame the loud venting on your loved one.  You can tell the neighbors your loved one just went a little nutty and you got there too late. Of course I'm no expert on human behavior but... that's what I do.

SalGal