Hi to everyone. It been a long time since I've wrote on here. We have had alot of hard days with my mother inlaw. On March 29 this year she was put in the hosiptal with upper gi bleed and had to get two units of blood. That was hard but she pulled through and seem to do better. See she is in her last stages of alzheimers. Since Dec 08. Since then she has had Pneumonia, UTI, and so much more. Now she is in the hosiptal again. With kidney stone and they thought she had pneumonia but come to fine out that she was having problems with her heart, well yes she did have a heart attack and it was bad one.So now we know that right now with her age and everything going on that all we can do is keep her confortable and not be in pain,
She is going be go back to the nursing home today are tomorrow. It is so hard to see some you love so much have to hurt so much. But you know sunday the good lord gave us a day with her that was so special she was able to talk to us and tell us she appreciate us so much and love me and her son. It was so sweet because it was the mother inlaw I new. Worrying about us and not her self. That was her and we have not seen that side of her since last year. It will always be a day that me and my husband wont ever for get. There is so many of us are going through hard days.
We just got take one day at a time. It hard when you know her time can come any time.
And I think my mother inlaw knows at times. She just kept on telling us she appreciate us.
And love us so much. So remember everyone when times get tough that there is good days a head and enjoy them. My husband is very close to his mother so this is hard.You think he is 65 and she is 91 that a long time to have a parent. I know I lost my dad at 53 and I thought my whole world fell apart. But I keep his memory in my heart and try to remember what he taught me growing up.
So when you think you cant take it any more remember that days are coming when you wont have them any more and you wish you did.So everyone say a prayer for her and son. Take care everyone and I will write soon.
Daughter Inlaw (from Ind)
It is hard, no matter what age, to lose a parent. There is the little child in most of us who longs to keep our mother close at hand. And it is hard to watch them deteriorate. When my mother was so very ill that, toward the end, I began to pray that the Lord would enfold her in his arms and carry her gently to him. I didn't want it to happen...but I couldn't stand seeing her suffer. I needed to see her find peace. Being able to visualize her being gently held in God's arms was comforting to me. She died within days. I grieved for many years. Didn't put up a Christmas tree for almost ten years...I was in my late forties when she passed, so I was no spring chicken. Until then, I never knew how deeply the loss of a parent affects older people. I had always thought that their passing was accepted well and life went on. I found it was not that easy.
Your husband is lucky to have you by his side. It was wonderful that his mother had a lucid day Sunday. She has been through so much; her body, too. I do hope--and will pray--that you two find the strength to forge through the coming days. I will pray, also, that your mother-in-law can find peace as she is received unto our Lord. God bless you all.
Leah