It has been a long time since the whole thing started. When my late mother-in-law passed away in Oct. 2004, my father-in-law had already shown some memory loss. Due to some family factor/father-son relationship factor, my FIL is always in Chicagoland area alone with home care in his house. At first w...
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Carol Bradley Bursack
Saturday, October 24, 2009 at 07:49 AMre: opinions
N.C.
Saturday, October 24, 2009 at 02:11 PMCarol,
Thank you for your kind response. What you said is true indeed. I guess it is just human nature. I just need to vent my reasoning here.
Nina
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Carol Bradley Bursack
Saturday, October 24, 2009 at 03:13 PMAnd we are fortunate enough to always learn from you, Nina.
Carol
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Posted 11/08 Comments (2)
This is such a difficult time but I am trying to hold...
You've got it nailed, Nina. There will always be opinions from those who don't know all the facts and those who aren't the least impacted so they can be very "caring," since they don't have to do anything but observe.
It is about balance. You and your husband have done a great deal and continue to do so. It is, in many ways, harder for you to keep driving and doing long-distance care than it is to move him closer even if it causes huge adjustments for him and the home may not be as good.
You have to find the best balance you can for a tough situation. You do this as well as anyone I've heard from, and you do it with a good, but practical heart. Hang in and go with your gut and your conscience. Unless these other people are going to become the primary caregivers, you and your husband have to make the decisions. Nothing is perfect. We just have to do the best we can.
Take care,
Carol