My Mom makes everything very difficult, because even though she knows her mind is 'aging' and so on, she will INSIST that she be listened to (again and again) when I tell her I already know something.
She might have said it 5 minutes ago, or many, many times in the past, but she thinks she never told me.
This takes away my ability/time to even brush my own teeth or feed myself or have ANY of my own thoughts. I am constantly taking care of their needs, which wouldn't be so bad, but she hinders THAT with her anxiety and by insisting that I listen to the same stuff ALL the time.
That doesn't even begin to cover the problem, but here's what I don't 'get.' She can display GOOD cognition and understanding and orientation at the doctor's office.
My brother and ALL the people who have spent regular time with her (as opposed to 'focused on medical issues' visit to the doctor) are of the same opinion as to how bad her memory is, because we all have the same problems communicating with her.
She just doesn't process, track, or configure to where we can stay on the same page with her about most things. Her mind goes all over the place, and she thinks it's all of us who have a problem.
The best way I can describe it is to compare it to a computer whose processes are corrupted by missing files, incorrect paths, and so on. The thing still WORKS and tries hard, but it doesn't work RIGHT any more.
- How do I explain to her doctor what is going on?