Thanks Carol

I appreciate the help -- I have to admit I really don't know how much longer my husband and his siblings are going to be able to care for his mother.  I clean the house and cook the meals and that is about it.  She is so full of hatred that I am not able to

commuincate with her effectively.  I grew up in a house full of hate and abuse and can not take it from her. 

So I do what needs done in the shadows, I am the one she says is stealing from her and moving her things around on purpose, with that said I don't how much more of the house cleaning I will be doing either.  I feel like I am letting my husband down but I have no other choice, she is already acting as if she is going to get violent.

Thanks for your help

Ginger Duffy

Thanks again Carol

I just feel as if I am not doing my part..I don't want to let people down.  There are times when I feel I like I need professional help.  I have such a hard time dealing with

this situation now, it has been almost 3 years, my marriage is not where I feel it should be and not to sound selfish but I feel like I am playing second fiddle to everything else.

I don't like feeling angry about this but where do I fall into place at.  I know it is his mother but I am his wife, am I suppose to just sit on the sidelines until it is over? 

I am not a selfish person but I need healthy interaction with people and he is so exhausted when the day is over we argue over the stupidist things.  I do feel like I am losing my mind at times.

Thanks again for listening

Ginger Duffy