Thanks again Carol   I just feel as if I am not doing my part..I don't want to let people down.  There are times when I feel I like I need professional help.  I have such a hard time dealing with this situation now, it has been almost 3 years, my marriage is not where I feel it should be and not to sound selfish but I feel like I am playing second fiddle to everything else. I don't like feeling angry about this but where do I fall into place at.  I know it is his mother but I am his wife, am I suppose to just sit on the sidelines until it is over?    I am not a selfish person but I need healthy interaction with people and he is so exhausted when the day is over we argue over the stupidist things.  I do feel like I am losing my mind at times.   Thanks again for listening Ginger Duffy