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Do you have any idea what stage this person is in? Has he been diagnosed with Alzheimers? If he is in moderate stage or late stage, he can no longer read or write. He may read some words but cannot connect to understand an article. As the result, he won't read anything to frustrate himself. It may be depression due to the loss of some abilities. Check with the doctor to see if he can take medcation for depression and Alzheimer's. Also the kind of people need structure and programs in a nursing home for memory impaired. Being at home is boring to him and he probably has no purpose or peers anymore so he gives up. He is also apathetic as well.
Check out the daycare center as well to find things for him to do. There are places where he can go for activities even after he stops reading or writing.
Hello. You are a loving person to want to try to help this situation.
My mother can still do puzzles and read, the two things that sustained her throughout her life, but I believe a time will come when can no longer process information well. (She has trouble reading people's letters to her, for instance.)
The Alzheimer's Store has several different kinds of products for mental stimulation. The one that most appealed to my mother are the jigsaw puzzles. They have about 30 large pieces, and the pictures are of famous works of art. If you work with your loved one, you can talk with him about the puzzle's picture, and so forth, because there are coaching questions that can prompt conversation.
There are also some memory games, some books that picture things from decades in the twentieth century, some movies and TV shows from that earlier era on DVD, and so forth.
There is also a wonderful DVD out there by Richard Taylor, a PhD and professor who was diagnosed with dementia and who has been talking about his experiences from the "insider's" perspective. The DVD is called _Be with Me Today_. It provides a really useful perspective on the situation your father is facing. Golfing, for instance, is perhaps too complicated for him to think about unless someone went to help him, and maybe he doesn't want help. Is there a miniature golf course you might take him to, just for kicks? At any rate, the key issue is trying to meet up with your loved one where *he* is now, without any pressure that he be the person he was 20 years ago or 6 weeks ago. I learned a lot from Taylor's DVD. You might find it helpful, too.
Keep us posted on how things go. I'm hoping some of the professional caregivers will come along and throw out some ideas for you. You are a very loving person to want to help. Sometimes our loved ones don't really want to be helped so much as - just - loved.
There could be many factors contributing to this individual's state. Disorientation and confusion, both hallmark symptoms of the disease, can make the individual with Alzheimer's disease feel anxious, scared and/or sad. Also, consider that any sensory impairments, such as low vision or hearing issues, can possibly make an individual feel isolated and detached. Keep in mind that Alzheimer's disease affects the part of the brain that regulates mood, and the damage to the brain impairs an individual's ability to function properly. He or she may not have the understanding or ability to change their own circumstances. Not surprisingly, depression can also be a factor; it is quite common in individuals with this disease, and it is important that this person's doctor be alerted to this issue so that a full evaluation and assessment can be done. It is important to engage with this individual with sensitivity, patience and calmness. Focus on what the individual is still able to do. Looking at old family pictures, going through a "rummage box," or listening to music from bygone eras could be gentle ways to stimulate and engage with this individual.
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