I think many people will understand the dilemma this situation creates for you. You do not say what stage the disease is at in either parties, but Alzheimer’s is a disease that can affect judgement. Their relationship has only lasted for a month so a lot can change. We can all relate to the intensity of a new relationship but they do have the added complication that they are not free to act as they would have done if they were both in their own homes. They will feel the restrictions of the care facility and its rules and it can be a very upsetting reminder for them both that they can not act in an autonomous way.
There are also legal issues of their individual financial affairs and how that may affect them in the future that need to be addressed. Unless you have Power of Attorney or act as a legal Guardian this could could complicated. You and the relative of the other party could seek some legal advice.
For the time being I think you can wait and see. Relationships between residents do happen and they can be happy ones. They often remain at a boyfiend and girlfriend level Sometimes people wish to get engaged and have a party to recognise their feelings for one another.
I'm not clear about whether the relationship is only a month old, or the idea they want to marry and be in the same room is a month old. That could make some difference. With dementia patients, it does make a difference what stage they are in. Nursing home people sometimes do marry and are very happy, however, a commitment ceremony could be a better idea. As Christine mentioned, there are many legal implications here, so I, too, would suggest that you see an attorney. If one of the parties is private pay because they have assets and the other is on Medicaid, then the one with assets could lose those assets because of the care of the other party. It does get complicated when things become legal.
Talk with the nursing home chaplain, as well. He or she may be able to guide you with this.
Here is a link to information about Ways Alzheimer's Affects Legal Issues that may be of help to you
Best Wishes- Christine
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