My Mom is in the 5th stage of Alzheimer's. We have recently (2 weeks ago) placed she, 81 years old, and my step-dad, 77 years old, (congestive heart failure) into a nursing center where they share a room. Since they have been there, she has forgotten they are married, thinks my dad, who passed away in 1995, is still alive and that he hasn't came to visit or call her. Her feelings are constantly hurt because the love of her life doesn't care enough to check on how she is. She also thinks she has 2 little girls at home with my dad and we are still living in my childhood home. my sister and I are 50 and 47 respectivly. Every time my brother or sister call her, she mentions the girls and dad. We have tried to explain, even brought dads death certificate and her present husbands marriage liscense to her. We realize explaining everyday doesn't work, she doesn't remember from 15 mins to 15 minutes, so daily reminders don't help. She also gets agitated, depressed, threatens to walk home, angry and it takes meds to finally calm her down. The staff have suggested that we change the subject when she talks about the "girls" or Dad. My problem is she doesn't take "no answer" for an answer. She gets upset when we don't tell her where the girls are or why dad hasn't shown up. I try my best to change the subject..does anyone have other suggestions? I miss my Dad and having to relive his death over and over is starting to get to me emotionally.