I did take care of my mother-in-law for five years. Everything was an argument. I prayed for peace and patience every day. I found that if I asked her to do somthing It was always answered, Can we do it tomorrow? So instead of asking, I would say today is tuesday. This is the day we soak your feet or Wash you hair. My mother-in-law never wanted me to have any time to myself. I did finally take her to her sisters on Fridays, but by the time I packed her up and got her there I was exhausted. I always took her & her sister out to eat or some little thing and then left her. But I had to pick her up by noon, So it was a little break. Also, the depression? I was pretty stern with my mother-in-law. If she couldn't get out of bed, I would ask her if I needed to take her to the doctor? We either got up and lived somewhat of a day, or we went to the doctor. She loved watching old movies, & crocheted. I kept my mother-in-law five years, 24 hours a day, then two years went to see her in the nursing home. She could do nothing but she was fed, clean, clean clothes, given her medicine, and taken to every activity I went to with my children and her great grandchildren.  It was a very busy time and I know I aged 13 years in five. Then I turn around and my mother is asking me the same thing over and over and over. This time I am older and I have no guilt. I can only do so much in a day. That is what all care givers need to learn. I was younger the first time, This time I have health issues and I love my Mom with all my heart, but I do what I can and Love her. God knows what is in your heart and he is with you always. Thanks, Mom's Baby