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Aw, c'mom, count yer blessings! He walks? He talks? He feeds himself? He's continent? And he's like a lot of us healthy manly MEN who are wanting intimacy at age 84? Where in heck has your Mom been for the past 10 years? There are Mom's out there who'd love a "sexually aggressive" mate, so what's with your's? Maybe your Mom needs to give him a hug and start necking with him,  as they must have once done - or you wouldn't be on here whining ! Maybe your Mom could buy him a porn flick on DVD and offer to watch it with him? Your Mom's gone frigid ? He wore the pants,  so she's refusing to remove her panties? Maybe you could send him the gift of a paid-for call girl once a month? Maybe you could pray to Jesus and ask Him to send your Dad that "Woman at the Well"? No one in your family attends a church? Pastors make home visits. Ask ! We call ourselves "problem-solvers"? but we don't forgive a MAN we used to love when we know he's now older, a little sick, and just a little wanting? Forgive your old man. Ask your Mom to forgive him too. Ask her to make up with him, smile at him, touch him instead of waiting for him to reach out in frustration, or strike out in anger brought on by dementia  illness. Get him busy and occupied - in his woodshop, on his tractor, in his garden, under his pick-up truck, canvassing neighbors on behalf of Sarah Palin and old McChipmonk or whatever he is, or what the heck , for Obama  and "change" ,  or loose change, or whatever he wants to change.  I'll betcha your Dad is ready for change! His doctor got him Viagra? Gee, let's all buy stock in Pfizer, like that doctor ! Ask at your local Good Food Store - there are  herbal teas better and cheaper than Viagra and without all the aggressive side effects, and also herbal teas that will help him cool off, calm down, and even sleep 10 hours a day. Lastly, start searching for a caregiver who's also a nymphomaniac , such a wonderful cook and housekeeper your Mom will love her too, and make sure your Dad falls in love with her photo first. I'll be praying for your Dad - It's a selfish prayer too; I'm in the same boat he is. If you find twin sister caregivers that are nymphos, please share one with me!