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It sounds like it's time to get your mom and you the help needed, which means probably, a nursing home. Would your mom - the mom she was before Alzheimer's - want you not have time for your children and perhaps endanger your marriage because of her illness? I doubt it. I often had to think, "What would Mom have wanted me to do when she was still herself?" It helped me make choices.   I you find a good nursing home, your mom will have better care - no one person can do it all, not even you. You have to sleep. You have to eat. What if you get sick -really sick? Then what would your mom do? Your kids? Your husband.   You are not "giving up" on your mom by putting her in the care of experts. Visit as often as you can. She will adjust and may even make friends, if she is still capable of that. She will likely enjoy seeing people her own age. She might even have some fun.   Please do get help for the sake of all of you. You've done so much. Now it's time for assistance.   Bless you for being such a loving daughter. Carol