Thank you Carol!!!  Turns out we may be ok!  I heard it's REALLY hard to get the VA to respond but I know they like to take care of their vets.  I am praying that God send me to the right person.  Also, in Texas there is some type of rules to protect my Mom's homestead and that she is sure to have enough money to live on when Dad goes into a facility.  Today I am researching the VA nursing home facilities once again.  I want him to be comfortable and not too far away.  It's going to be a huge change, of course. Mom and I are trying to get over the guilt.  Doing the right thing is not easy.   Also under the circumstances - we can apply for Guardianship - and the attorney thinks it will be easy (the law part - not the emotional part) - and we can do what we need to do.   Thanks for caring!!!!!     sharon