I'm so happy for you, Sharon! Most of the VA people really do care, but some agencies are overwhelmed. You are making progress.   Please do not feel guilty (I know, easier said than done) about helping your dad (and others) stay safe. You and your mom are doing the right thing. You seem to have the right attorney, and are taking the right steps.   Now, work on yourselves. Pat yourselves on the back for being such caring people and taking care of a difficult situation for everyone's benefit.   I'm delighted your mother won't lose out with this. Congratulations for a job well - started: ) You;ll continue on and face difficult decisions with the same courage and love.   Blessings, Carol