Emotional roller coaster ride.  I was so happy yesterday.  Mom and I visited the veterans home and it was wonderful!!  Clean, nice, smelled good, safe, smiling staff.  They seem to really care.  He's on a waiting list.  Worse case $2200 a month - best case nothing.  That is all good news.    Bad news is we cannot make him go and we do have to file for legal guardianship.  We did not want to have to do it.    Bad news.  VA came today and met with Dad - they got there early - before Mom did.  Dad told the guy he pays all his bills - takes care of it all, etc.  Mom shows up and the guy says - we are appointing someone to pay his bills.  We are setting up a special checking account and his VA check will go into it and we will manage it.  What's left over we will put into a savings account.  Told my Mom she's the "estranged wife."  Well - who is taking Dad to the dentist for a follow up for his dentures?  We just got all his bills set up to pay on-line - and we let Dad think he's paying them.  Now Dad is all upset and confused.  This is how the VA helps?  It was the guys attitude that ticked off Mom.  Poor Dad.  His mental state was not that great and now he's so upset - calling Mom and saying - I want you to help me.  It's just awful.  They could have handled this so much better.  They are gone now and we are left with Dad's mental state.  I hope nothing bad happens but I pray for that every day.    This is really hard because we don't know the rules.  Who to turn to for help!  oh the VA guy said they don't honor guardianships.  So, are we wasting Dad's money?  or is that just for finances?  I am calling tomorrow.  Pray for me - I don't want to have an attitude.  I just want to take care of my Dad and my Mom during their senior years. It should be a happy time, not so stressful.    Thanks for listening - I know I am rambling.