I am very sorry that your Dad is now drinking again. How old is he? He definitely needs to have someone nearby to watch him now. I don't know about the stage but he will get worse slowly and at some point he will need full-time caregiver or even 24 hours care later on and eventually he will go to a NH for dementia.
The worst part is to make sure he is safe right now. He cannot drive anymore - you don't want to wait for accidents to happen? You need to prevent it. Do anything to take away his driver's license.
A doctor is not a caregiver - it is not his job to tell you how to caregiver your Dad.
You need to call up a home care co. and ask for help. They will have advice for you on how to take care of him.
If one of you sisters is POA for him, you need to use all the tricks to make sure he is under your care and does not wander out and get lost and etc. Of course he won't let you help because he will never admit he has problems.
We used tricks to remove my FIL's old car that was broken somehow. We were lucky he listened to the doctor and didn't take another driver's test for renewal. He gave it up but at times was talking about a license. Now he is in stage 7 and in a NH for late stage of Alzheimer's. He had home care since late 2005 until 2010. We played tricks and took away his financial power as he was willing to give out some power to my husband anyway. Fortunately he never drinks. He is 90 and going to be 91 in Dec.
Don't reply on the doctor because the doctor only diagnoses and gives med. The doctors don't do caregiving. Ask home care co. for caregiving tips. Or you can call Alzheimer's association chapter in your local area for ideas. If he does not want to move, start with home care caregivers if you are not there all the time. He really should not live alone but my FIL was home alone with caregivers. He became a widower in 2004.
I just wanted to send an update on where we are with my dad. We were able to get him into detox at a local hospital through the help of his primary care physician and while he was there, we checked him into a locked assisted living facility, moved his furniture, etc., and took him directly there from the hospital. We told him he couldn't live alone after being in the hospital. The facility is wonderful; the people are very caring; and it's small, so he gets lots of personal attention. The are also trained to work with people with dementia, so that was a big plus. He still is aware enough to want to go home, to have his car back and to drive, but we have to keep making excuses and saying maybe next week. That seems to be holding him off, but he can get very angry when we don't see his point of view. He has threatened to "part company" with us, but we know it's the Alzheimer's talking.
Thanks for the advice. I think we are finally getting a grip on this situation and hopefully we'll be able to get through whatever is ahead of us.
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