THAT CHECKED OUT OKAY. DOCTOR SAID A COLONOSCOPY WOULD BE THE NEXT STEP. MOM IS IN STAGE 6. AM NOT SURE IF I SHOULD PUT HER THROUGH THE PROCESS OF THE COLONOSCOPY AND IF SHE WILL EVEN BE ABLE T0 DO PREP. I FEEL LIKE WE NEED TO KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON . SHE HAS BEEN AGITATED ALOT LATELY, SHOUTING,CUSSING AND SMACKING. I DON'T KNOW IF THIS IS DUE TO THE ANEMEIA AND FATIGUE SHE IS HAVING, OR JUST ANOTHER STEP IN ALZHEIMER. MY BROTHER AGREES THAT WE SHOULD DO THE COLONOSCOPY, BUT MY SISTER THINKS THAT IT IS POINTLESS. I AM SO STRESSED, I WANT TO DO WHAT I CAN SO THAT MY MOM IS COMFORTABLE BUT I DO NOT WANT TO ADD TO HER STRESS. ANY THOUGHT ON MY SITITUATION
I totally understand what you're dealing with. Sometimes we feel rushed into a decision to have a loved one get a particular medical procedure that ultimately may not be beneficial.
You may be interested in the following post that I wrote about the concep mat of Slow Medicine:
Carol Busack also wrote about Slow Medicine:
The processes described in these blogs may be a good way to slow down and think through all of the implications of a colonoscopy for your mom.
Take care and keep us posted!
I am not a doctor or nurse so I cannot tell if she should go through it or not. However it all depends on how she will be able to take it and your sister has a point. But the main goal is for her not to suffer. I am not sure which way is less suffering (with or without the procedure) and you need to ask the doctor.
My father-in-law is also in stage 6 and he gets agitated easily this year. We believe it is the staging unless you can find a specific reason that makes her angry or mad. For my father-in-law, we just try to please him if it is reasonable, white lies or not. Anything that makes him happy. Not perfect but it helps. If the doctor is willing, he/she could also prescribe some sedatives for her. My FIL's doctor is trying not to give him sedatives because he has been taking 7 medications for his heart failure condition this year (this is new starting Nov.)