Hi Sparx

Im not an expert by any long shot but I have gone through this kinda situation with my own father. my dad was doing alot of strange things. we thought something was wrong. we took him to the er and they checked him and from there they wanted to evaluate him and they told us he has dimentia. and he was a kicken and yelling some pretty bad words. this was in nov 08 and since then my father has gone down hill really bad.  we had to place him in a nursing home and he can't feed himself no longer nor hardly walk. he is so confused. this is the hardest thing ever.

what I had to do was when they told us he had dimentia they asked us if we wanted to sign a paper and be over his medical, so we made all the decitions. not him. boy he hated us it was awful. our day's was very hard and still are. he was very angry. but I knew for his sake and other people we had to take charge. I was afraid he was going to hurt himself or someone else. he was getting mad very easy.

to some it up. if his doctors are in denial get another one. and a brain scan will show the proof of dimentia. I really hope he don't have it. this is awful for anyone who has to go through it. just be patient with your dad, love every min you have with him. because his shell body will remain but with dimentia will take the person you once knew and loved. take care. you will be in our prayers. tami

It has been my experience that doctor's (of any type, including neurologists) are completely unhelpful when it comes to daily care of people with cognitive difficulties, especially senior care. They simply don't seem to view it as a medical problem. If it's not something they can cure, it's not on their radar, not their department. You have to pay a lot of attention, and research it for yourself. It takes time, but the internet is making it possible. I have had enormous problems with both my elderly mother (now deceased) and my Father and stepmother, with getting doctors to pay careful attention to their medication. Doctors always seem to look for the solution in a pill. It is easy to prescribe them, but not easy to stop them. But now you can easily research the medications online. Overprescribing, and improper supervision of lists of medication is rampant in the indiustry. You have to look up each medication yourself, and look for things like medicines that shouldn't be taken together, and medications that a doctor has dicontinued, but still persist on records, and therefore still get dispenssed. I've seen it over, and over, and over, and over, again. Do not expect a doctor to do this. You will be sorely disappointed.

I feel so much for people who have no active advocate, for they are doomed. Thank you for being there for your father.