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Nearly every caregiver feels like you do, at least from time to time. And so many have family members who are at a distance and have no clue to how draining caregiving is. Your own health is in danger if you don't get more help with your mother, and she would not want that. What happens to her if you get so sick you can't even visit her in a care center?   First, don't feel guilty about having natural and justifiable feelings. You need more help. Your mother doesn't have friends around anymore, and that isn't good for her. A good assisted living center, or even a private home with several elders, would give her things to do and peers to visit with. You would still be a caregiver. You would just have more help.   Please start the searching process to see if there is a better option for your mom. You may want to go to www.eldercare.gov, which is the eldercare locator. That will give you names of some care options in your area. Check them out, though. There is no system in place to let you know how good they are - and even with a "system" in place, nothing replaces your own inspection.   Please get more help before you are too sick to be a part of the rest of your family. You don't want them to have to be caring for you. Carol