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Q: Is it common to charge your mother with alzheimers $1,500 / month to live at your house (bedroom) Sh
Hi Kim
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There are a lot of caregivers who are able to provide comprehensive care to someone with Alzheimer's because of their financial support. It is important to do this through a lawyer so that there is no misunderstanding and to protect the legal rights of someone who is not always able/unable to give informed consent.
Christine
Hi Kim,
I am not sure. If there is money issue, some folks may need to share the expenses with the elders. If it is reasonable, it is ok, I guess. But I would charge for caregiver fees and that kind of thing, but I would not charge the rent as she is your own mother. For my mother, it is no way. But for My FIL, we would not charge any rent but he may help us share the grocery or caregiving expenses. We are sending my FIL to a nursing home (ALF), so it is just my theory. If the parents are regular and healthy, one may do that. For my culture and family, we do not charge the parents who have Alzheimer's. We may charge our siblings. It is a matter of respect unless there is really money issue and you need her help.
Take care,
Nina
Hi Kim,
Much depends on money. It would seem to me that the parent would need to live somewhere, and sharing expenses makes sense. The parent is also getting help that would cost much more if he or she needed to hire someone else. The amount depends a great deal on the money available, but also the costs in your area.
Please protect yourself by finding out the average costs and keeping very good records, as your parent may eventually go on Medicaid, and they will want an accounting of how the money has been spent. Keeping good records makes sense.
Caregivers often don't think of this, as we do it from the heart. But all it takes to cause you trouble is a family member who disagrees with you (years after you have taken on the caregiving). I hear about it all the time.
Again, as to the amount, check living expenses in your area. You also may want to get a formal agreement drawn up by an estate attorney or business attorney, just to protect yourself down the road.
Carol
In some cases, if you need to get social service or aid for the mother, the family may set up a plan including her paying rent so she can apply for it, then you could say that you charge the rent to live up to the rules. In some cases, if the family is trying to apply for medicaid, they even take over the money under their names (but it is really the parents' money) early on before the 3 years rule (one has to be poor for 3 years before he/she applies for medicaid) so they can get medicaid for the elders. This is extreme measure but if it helps the elders, it is worth a try.
Nina
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If the parents decided before they get sick and pay for the next generations, it is different issue. It is their wish. However, if it is a new issue when you have to charge the sick mother the rent, then it depends on your need. In my case, we won't charge our parents rents due to respect, but we may share costs if needed.
Nina