I am onlly fifty and just lost my mother to alzheimers and demencia, I cared for her for ten years.
I miss her very much, she and my son have been my whole life purpose for over ten years. Also, my son has ADHD and is angry, sad, unhappy and not doing well in his junior year which just started one month ago. Right whenever we lost mother. He was here for me whenever I needed help with either parent. My father died of heart failure four and a half years ago with demencia. Please can you help me with my relationship with my son, and show us how to go on with life without either parent. I am a single mother attemptting to get answers, also my memory is poor, my listening skills have decreased and I have a problem with lonelyliness and putting to much pressure on my twenty-one year old son, which I love with all my heart and I just want the best for him and myself.
Hi Rhonda
I am so sorry to hear you are having so many problems. The picture you give of your life means that it is difficult to give you one answer. I would like to suggest a number of things that may help.
First, I wonder if you are clinically depressed. Memory, concentration, coping skills are all adversely affected by depression. I think it would be helpful if you started by going to see your doctor to see what he/she thinks. It may be that you could be helped by medication or it could be that he/she may suggest local counseling and support services. You need to look after yourself so that you can then help others. I think it is very important you get some help.
The problems you identify cover a number of areas. Your son, the deaths of your parents, your loneliness, each could be approached by different support services. They are out there. You can get the help you need by approaching your local social services. Maybe join a local one parent group. Please though, start with your doctor.
Please get back to me and keep me posted with your progress
Christine
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