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Hi, My father-in-law lives in Evanston, IL. I admire your love for your Dad. It is a good thing to move him nearby. It is really up to you whether he should stay with you or go to the care facility. My FIL is still at home but this home care for 24 hours is expensive and we don't live with him. Now we are with him because my husband is on leave here. Depending on the staging, for early alzheimer's, staying home with you may give you the best quality time to be with him. But as times go on, he will get worse. For now he may be ok to be moved, esp. to be near you and he will be happy enough for that. I don't think he would get violent. My FIL gets agitated because he is into the end stage for Alzheimers. He is now at the late mid-stage and also has heart failure. This year after the hospitalization, he gets more agitated and less happier because he can no longer do the things he likes to do even if fantasy (his old scientific research or jogging or getting married again.)   But you need to think ahead in 2 or 3 years when he will get worse. Will you be able to care for him at home? When you move him to the care center at that time, it may be even harder as he won't be able to understand anymore (now he is happy to come and it is good.) Home care 24 hours is expensive and your life will be disturbed. His schedule is not like yours. He will depend on you more and more to the point you cannot work or leave him without being upset. Some people do it all the way because they are retired and have the resources or space. But it is demanding and your kids will not be able to help because he would depend on you largely. Hiring home health care service will help for part-time situation. but it will be expensive if it becomes 24 hours or more demanding. My FIL got the AD diagnosis in Nov. 2006.He got worse and worse in 2007 and 2008. Now it is 2009 and he is really agitated. Your Dad sounds like my FIL in 2007. So it is still not too bad.   You just need to look at the whole picture and divide it by staging. he could be ok at home now but he may not. Maybe you can plan to send him to the home later and let him stay with you and see for now. (Give a trial.) Eventually my FIL will go to a nursing home because 24 hours home care is expensive and we won't live with him later on.   Good luck, Nina