I am Primary Care Giver for Mom who lives with me but my brother is POA & we have many conflicts
We live in PA my brother Lives in NY, Mom has vascular Dementia and is almost 86 years old. He never communicates and creates fragmentation among my sister, etc. I would like to hire a Elder Mediator. The little communication we had was through my dear brother who would explain how controlling and difficult my older brother and his wife would be. He was my mediator in a sense but he just tragecally died in a boating accident which I still cannot believe....Now I feel isolated and astounded that my older brother has become even more difficult. My mom would love to hear from him more often and I would love to have peace.....
My condolences on the death of your death brother who was so helpful.
Now, a family (or elder) mediator may be the only way you can do this http://www.healthcentral.com/alzheimers/c/62/67816/conflict-mediation/2 . This is so common with siblings. It's hard, painful and frustrating, but you need help and a third party may be your only answer.
Sometimes, a pastor or Rabbi my be of some help, but you may need someone with more authority, which is why a paid mediator may be needed.
Good luck with this. Please check back and let us know how your are doing,
Carol
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Irish Twin
Monday, July 06, 2009 at 10:43 AM
Thank you for your suggestions and website. I will research this website and get back to you.