I want to find an old person to pamper, to cherish and to spoil. I am an out of work nurse in Radnor, Pennsylvania. I volunteer along with my daughter and her friends at a local dementia unit at a nursing home. I have worked at nursing homes for many years and do not like how dementia patients are handled. I really love dementia patients. I want to take care of a dementia patient or couple in their home but I have not had any luck finding one. Is there anything you can do to help me?
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Q: I want to find an old person to pamper, to cherish and to spoil.
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4/14/12 7:38am
I'm afraid we can't do anything directly to help you, but please keep looking. There are many family caregivers who would love having someone with your credentials and passion to help care for their loved one. Don't give up.
Blessings,
Carol
4/14/12 10:18am
It's so sad that security these days keeps out people who really can do good things. So many elders are lonely and forgotten. Nursing home personnel know that, but they have to have rules. They are responsible if anything happens to the elder.
Perhaps you could go through a church or other religious organization. They may have contact lists for elders who want company or caregivers who need respite. A local senior center may be a place to get leads, also. Conversation with seniors there could bring some ideas. I hope you can find someone to help, as people need your kind of care.
Blessings,
Carol
4/14/12 12:15pm
You can sign up in a home care agency so you are available to people looking for home care via legal channel. If you are a free-lance caregiver, advertise your position so people are aware of your help. Usually it is expensive to pay for home care part-time or full-time. 24/7 is way too expensive. Lots of people want to have home care as much as possible. But at times when the person gets too sick, they need to go to a NH for skilled care or nuring care. A private home cannot have that.
There are good private NH for memory impaired and they offer peers and actitivities. They have food that is more available than the private home (meal at home, for example.) Not all the NH are for "cattle keeping". I admit it is a matter of price. Of course a NH does not offer lots of personal care but if the person is too sick, the family cannot afford it. Some family is small, and have no manpower to do so at home.
Regards,
NC
4/14/12 12:28pm
Since you are a nurse, you can use the credit to assert your qualification so people can hire you. Usually if it is free, there is liability issue. If you have CNA (nursing aid certificate) the agency can also take you. I know a nurse who set up her own business as her own home care co. You can try to do that as well. But you need to learn to do the business first. Advertising and etc. People need the credit when they decide whom to hire. There are rules because it is their family, not yours.
Good luck,
NC
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Thank you for responding to my question. I take a neighbor to my country club for lunch (she's 90) and I know she enjoys it. I am summering in Hawaii and would be willing to take a senior for the wonderful experience but wouldn't have any idea as to how to go about finding someone who would want to go with my daughter and I. I have found that as I call facilities people are so careful in not making a mistake that they are unable to take advantage of what I'm willing to do. I even went to one nursing home with an offer to just hold hands with the residents and they wouldn't even let me in the door. By winter if I am still unable to find a private duty client to love I will have to go back to work and it'll be back to the nursing home where people are treated like cattle without dignity or respect with none of the love that they need and deserve. I'm not looking forward to it.