You are handling this well, Rosie. It's hard for your dad and he will grieve and feel guilty no matter how much information he has. That's human. But giving him the information you have gathered will help. And, yes a third party giving input is always a helpful idea.   I'm glad the location of the home isn't an issue, as this does seem best for Rosie, and for all of you. You will have your hands full with your dad, and Rosie has her kids to help her. It's sad they need to part this way, but since her AD is so advanced, she'll be less aware of the separation than he is. It's your dad who is suffering for it. You are a wonderful caregiver and your help will get him through.   Take care of yourself, too. Carol