I know that seems no big deal but it is and very distressing. My Mom has Multi Infarct Dementia and is I think at stage 1 but she also has severe Macular degeneration and has had a pretty decent stroke affecting bladder and bowel control. She is often very confused and at other times less so. She is in a home 5 mins from where my 83 year old Dad lives. She went from Low Care to High Care in a month but in reality a week due to stroke. She went to hospital in an ambulance and many weeks later into a High Care Facility. My Dad has had enormous trouble accepting it and continues to hope she will get well enough to come home. She won't! Mom has always called the shots so to speak and now tells him that he needs to get her bags because "they" have said she can come home. So dear Dad gets her bag and she packs it!!!! But even without this she will find something to pack all her clothes into. It is really distressing as in the meantime I have to

tell my Dad to take it all back and then talk to her, distracting her on the phone, so the staff can put her stuff away again. I am 2 hours away.

I don't know how to get it through to Dad, he is grieving so much.

I don't know how best to distract her or get Dad to distract her when she becomes insistent that she is going home and she wants her bags or that we are not to unpack them.