My mom has relatively quickly needed to go into a home and her confusion has increased quite quickly as well. My youngest who is only 5 and loves her dearly wants to know why she can't just get better and come to his special days at school (2 hours away!!) Why isn't my Gran like other kid's Grans? One of my other children finds it hard that I am so often having to deal with all the dramas that keep happening. We have had phone calls from the home when we have been at birthday parties and I have had to stop and deal with issues like my Dad checking her out, as she has convinced him she can leave. My little boy states "Gran keeps trying to escape" People smile when I say that. But to us this is just so awful. I don't know how to explain in a non frightening way to my kids. They love her to bits but this is changing things. Secondly the home is not such a nice place to take young kids, some of the residents are in a pretty bad way. Secondly my husband is soooooooooo over this! That sounds hard and it often makes me feel angry. But he has so often of late had to carry the load while I have travelled 2 hours away and stayed over night. He is then late to work, taking kids to school or home again and so forth. He sees me distracted with it all and feels it is affecting our young family...and it is. But she was always there for me, how can I not be there for her? Dementia is hard on families.
Help.
