just wondering if anyone might be able to help my family (those not in denial)
better understand if what my mom has been doing falls under a different form of dementia, or if this is something that more closely resembles alzheimers.
I first noticed this "issue" about 10 yrs ago. My mom would tell a story involving family members and we ALL know if never happened. No matter how we would try to reason w/her..and inform her that we "all" were in agreement...she would become adamant and stubborn...and insistant that "it did". Then she would get
very, very angry...and would seem to take on a entirely different "look" her entire countenance would change.
then...she seems to "return" into this stage of sweetness and try to reassure who ever it is she is trying to "convince"...that it's just okay to "let it go"..and then tries to act like the person she just told "has a problem"! lol
Now..this is NOT funny by any means!! But it has been very scary to witness over the years.
There have been times earlier on that she declares she phoned my adult siblings and myself to inform us of a family gathering.. and when non of us showed up...we were called with everyone wondering "where we were".
Although each of us informed her we were never contacted...she remained insistant that she did! She will carry this out to the end. The only resolve is to let it go.. NO ONE will EVER convince her to the point that she will admit she just "made a mistake" or "forgot".
I know my father has dealt w/this and seen the incidents pop up now and again... but I believe he's in denial. My parents live 4hrs from me and we now live 1500 miles away from my adult siblings...so they just don't see any of this first hand. My mother's sister has though...and 2 yrs ago she brought it to my dad's attention.. I never could get him to talk to me about anything...he just gets angry at me and makes me feel like i'm ganging up on my mother!
I think he's in denial.
Recently, my mother tried to convince me she had medical knowledge about a certain condition and had been "trained"...I just said "Oh Lord, here we go"
and sure enough...she continued on trying to convince me about "what she knew"....and then told me she studied it in a medical journal while in a Dr. office w/her Uncle while she waited for him in the waiting room. My heart sank.
She is suffering w/Fibro Mialga and she is also dealing w/other conditions of which she is secret about concerning her neck/spine and nerves.. Her overall health is poor.. She does not excercise and does very little beside going to church and going out to eat w/my father. She has progressively seemed "aloof" towards me...
Sorry for the length of this.. I'm just concerned and need direction... I don't want to pursue anything with my dad or bring anything more to his attention.. She is not always presenting this way... but i'm not around her often enough anymore either.
any comments are appreciated
thank you for your time!