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You really can't make her do it, unless you have her declared legally incompetent. I had a similar experience to yours, and I know the exhaustion of daily calls and daily trips and all of the emergencies. I watched carefully for an opening. Once, after one of my mother's many falls, I caught her at a weak moment and suggested she go "for awhile" to be with Dad at Rosewood (a nursing home). She said, yes, she was afraid and wanted to go. I ran her through the tests and redtape and had her in by five that night. Of course, she was never able to leave after that, and while torn, she really didn't want to go back.   Furniture and life-long belongings mean a lot to many elders, and that is what they don't want to leave. Can you reassure her that she can bring many things with her? Catching her at a moment when she is frightened, and reassuring her that she will be able to keep many of her things may help. It's about time. This is very hard, I know. I was pressured by family to move Mom, but I really wanted her to make the decision. I got lucky. You may, too, if you watch carefully for the right moment. Carol