Dear Nina,   My husband has a appt. with his md. next week for the memory test.  I am hoping that once he gives attention to her answers that he will " Wake Up".  I also see the same md as he does, In talking with her in reference to this tearing us apart, she replied " I thought that she had been put into a facility for her care", he has seen her over the last three months as he was depressed over his mom.  The md is honest and he trusts her. Who knows, we are having a difficult time together due to her demands daily are increadible. The md told me try hard not to say anything else about his mother,himself, but at what cost is what I don't understand. Back to mother in law, she is covered by two insurances but is not willing to have any testing done. This woman is very hostile, angry, bitter, has no friends or immedite family that can tolerate her after one minute.   We went through her threating suicide earlier this year and the police were called and they removed the guns from the home.  Everyone was afraid of her accusing them of stealing from her. This has been a long road dealing with the stress and with her state of mind.  I have visited her, taken her places in hope that getting her out of the house would help but , no, nothing is enough.  I can't live with her and my husband says he can only stay for less than thirty minutes but he still will not accept her condition.   Thanks for the message