Hello again, Nina,   I am back from the md, I have a ear and sinus infection.  Your  fil sounds  a lot like my mil.  I don't guess they could be at the same place at the same time, they have so much in common.  My mil now talls about a man in another town that wants her to move in with him.  There is not another man, I think she is hoping to make her son jealous.  I tell her to get the telephone number and we will call him and get directions so we can bring her to him. That is when she shuts up for once.  I have noticed that her phone calls have been fewer in the last week. I took the md's advice and have not talked about her over the the weekend.  I am thinking my husband is wondering, why. We have been snowbound for three days.  I know now that it is better not to complain about her and I see the man that I fell in love with more. They say live and learn and I am.    It sounds like your fil is a handfull.  I can see he has a profound effect on you.  You must be a wonderful woman to posess the skill of dealing with him.  I was looking back and noticed that you posted a comment about ss disability.  I hope that you got your answers.  I didn't know that dementia tends to run in a family. It must be difficult for you. I am so sorry. You are so nice and have so much patience.  I understand  how you can be so very nice to other people.  I think of what a wonderful website this is and how fortunate I am to have found it.   My heart goes out to you.  I am sure that you are and will be blessed with all the good life has to offer.   Talk soon,