Dr and social worker called my daughter to come back and help me get my husband placed in a facility, saying he was not safe. She lives several states away from me, and the social worker told her that she was concerned that I would end up in the hospital as I needed help and support. My step daughter lives in another state and could not come as her husband got a 3rd brain tumor back in 7 months, so she has more than she can handle. I pray for them every day.

My daughter surprised me,flying in the day I was in court with lawyer getting the emergency guardianship papers. My 21 year old grand daughter insisted on coming too, as she has a special bond with her Grandpa.

Because of his behavioral problems, only one facility would take him. They don't accept medicaid, but have a month to month plan, so our goal was to place him there to get him calmed down and then move him to a less expensive facility.

Since he was still insisting on driving, and running our very small business ( in to the ground) the Dr prescribed ativan to put in his ice cream, get him calmed down and then call the ambulance to take him to the facility.

He is in very good shape physically, goes to the gym 3X a week and strong as an elephant. 2 ativan did nothing so I gave him a 3rd one, and he was still alert and it had NO affect on him.

He had a tia a few months ago and was fearful of another mini stroke, so I told him that he looked like he was having another tia and the DR had called the ambulance.

He insisted that he was fine and refused to go with the EMTs.

After EMT asked him if he could take his blood pressure and lied saying it was very high, he finally agreed to go. The EMTs were wonderful.

We had his furniture moved out to facility in AM and took his clothes and etc earlier in the day. Movers dropped his chest of drwers and broke it.

I had called the Police days before all this, and told them that he was not supposed to be driving and they had all info on his car, but they never caught him driving. My 21 yr old grand daughter went to pick him up from work in his car, and they pulled her over saying he had not turned in his license, which he had a few days before. She told the female officer that and when officer wanted to go into his business and take his license she started crying saying he was going to a home that day and please not to embarrass him. The officer said her parents had az so she was very kind and did not do it

He thinks he is being held there to be observed for his tia and was calling me on my cell and home phone over and over. he went from angry to pleading. Since they told me not to talk to him, to get him acclimated he thought I was trying to get rid of him.

He tried to kick the door down there, and had to be taken to hospital one day, but was calmed down when they got there.

After looking at home and business financial, we would have lost the business in a few months and saw that he was draining our savings down to nothing. We would have not even been able to keep the house the way he was wasting money and we could not find out where it went.

I am out of work on Family leave so no money coming in for me. My daughter was a God send but eventually had to go home of course.

The facility has an excellent Dr and placed him on anti psychotic med zyprexia, and xanax a couple days ago. the phone calls have slowed down but they are heart wrenching pleas and crying to come home.

I am overwhelmed trying to do the paperwork for lawyer for medicaid spend down, VA papers to apply for a room at veterans new facility and get business affairs fixed. Had to do stop pays on ach at bank where he had these automatic payments on things he didn't even use or know what they were for.

I mostly hide in bed. Even taking a shower is a major effort.

He will be served the permanent guardian ship papers by sheriff in about 10 days and will really get angry. He has the right to hire an attorney and fight it, which I know he will and there is no money to pay for it. He is very high functioning. Every Dr says this is such a hard case.

Thank you all for your help. I can't thank you enough.

Elizabeth