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Hi, Elizabeth,   I agree with Carol that you should visit with his doctor. We had a similar experience in that the nursing home staff did not want my father to visit Mom for a protracted period of time when she was first admitted to the nursing home. The reasoning was that Mom -- who was strong-willed, angry, and determined to get out (like your husband) -- had developed an extremely strong anger at Dad, fueled by the Alzheimer's and paranoia. Dad's presence tended to cause an emotional outburst/reaction from her. Fortunately for us, Dad had to return to the city where my folks had lived (which was about 7 hours away from where I live and where Mom's nursing home was) in order to pack up their belongings and then sell their house. So when he returned to visit a few months later (and eventually moved into the area a year later), Mom had "forgotten" most of the bad times and they were able to return to having pleasant visits.   So check with doctor and hang in there! Take care!   Dorian