We are really in need of help now. The money is dropping in the market. The stock is bad as there is no bailout yet. Something has to be done by the government. In the mean time, investment for seniors like my FIL is on hold and not making more.
My FIL is still ok at home with 24 hours home care.
It is so expensive! More than the fees for a high-end nursing home now. He cannot be alone. We cannot be wtih him all the time and we live out of town.
We really need to send him to a nursing home. But the home care boss said he cannot interact with the strangers effectively in the nursing home. We plan to see if we can take one caregiver that he likes with him. But I know some home does not take caregivers as they have their own in their floor for moderately severe patients with Alzheimer's. They keep them safe in the floor without going into the elevator with a bracelet.
How can we send him to a home with his approval? Does not seem like it. We can tell him we have to save money as he wishes. But we cannot be there to help him and save money. How can we tell him we cannot be there personally and that we have to send him to a home?
The home care boss said we can wait until he becomes combative. When the caregivers cannot do it anymore, then he can go to a home. But it may take 6 months to 2 years!!
We really should send him to a home in 2009.... It is bad to wish he gets worse so he can go to a home....
What can we do to make this easier? We need to watch out for his money and home care does not save this money at all. He can live like this in 5 years but it is just too expensive and does not make sense.
For his quality of life, we seem to have to keep him at home.
Is there any other way to have quality of life for him??
We really need help!