My FIL has always wanted some cash or money with him. In 2007, the caregiver gave him some small cash ($20 or so) if he wanted it. In 2008, he took all his checkbooks and put them under the pillow when he sleeps for about 3 months. He no longer uses or handles money himself. He has not done so for at least 1 or 2 years. Last week, he wanted money again. His Alzheimers is quite severe now with his loss of memory so the money or cash is not needed for him as the caregivers have some cash from us. But he would insist when he remembers. And he made it a big deal and was very very fuzzy. So today I gave him $10. Later on, at night, he asked my hubby about his money situation which he has no clues at all (my husband handles all that and is the POA and trustee.) After that, he gave a hint that he wanted $20 or $50 or more. He wants to go to the bank!! (He can no longer walk for more than a long block.) I realized that he wants to be free to spend!! But He can't! He would lose the money. We cannot give him $100 or $500 anymore like what we did in 2004/2005! I told him this is for getting coffee or ice cream in the store only! He does not need it for groceries or anything major. But my FIL wants the money to do "major stuff". Or he does not understand at all as he said he didn't. He is manipulative and tricky. I asked my hubby to tell him tomorrow, if he remembers, that the money is only for small snacks outside and we will give him more after he uses them. In fact, he does not go out too much and the caregiver usually paid for the ice cream anyway.

How do we make him calm down? We tried before to tell him my huband handles everything. It worked a little bit but he still insists he has no money in his pocket! A fake or old debit card is not good either as he would try it for real!

Any ideas?

Thanks,

Nina